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Law student set to start a training contract alongside her boyfriend’s ex writes to Graham Norton for relationship advice

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He tells her it’s ‘plain stupid’ they both work at the same firm

A future trainee has sought advice on her law student love triangle from an unlikely source: Graham Norton.

Writing to the comedian and TV presenter through his Agony Uncle column in The Telegraph (£), a postgraduate law student called Amelia tells Norton she’s recently started dating a fellow future lawyer and is “very happy”.

But not totally happy. Amelia takes issue with a former fling her new boyfriend had while he was in his third year of university. He remains friends with his old flame, who Amelia had hoped would be civil towards her. “However she is extremely cold and stand-offish with me, while treating him normally,” Amelia reports.

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Buddying up with bae’s ex is likely not at the forefront of one’s mind when searching for a partner. But, for Amelia, she has more reasons than most to be concerned. She explains:

“We are all going to join the same law firm, so I’ll have to have a mutually respectful relationship with her as a future colleague.”

Telegraph commenters, perhaps not realising how far in advance law firms tend to recruit, were quick to tell Amelia that joining a firm with her new boyfriend and his ex was perhaps not the smartest of moves. “Are you out of your mind?” one commenter gawked: “How do you know your relationship will last?” Another said: “[H]ow utterly stupid to all join the same firm! Is it really the only one in town?”

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Norton, not one to mince his words, was also less than impressed with Amelia’s career decision. “I have no idea how or why you all got a job at the same firm, but that is just plain stupid,” he says. “How one of the three of you didn’t figure that out I have no clue. The situation doesn’t really sound sustainable and I can imagine something or someone is going to blow fairly soon.”

His less-than-optimistic response continued:

“Three is always a tricky number when it comes to relationships, so unless she meets someone else and it becomes four, I fear it will be a twosome before long. I hope it isn’t you that ends up at a table for one.”

Unfortunately, the commenters seem to have sided with Norton on this one. Comments ranged from “get a grip” to “frightening lack of common sense” and “I’ve just walked into an episode of Suits”. Another says: “Dear Graham, please tell us the woman’s name. I want to be sure never to hire such a naive person to do any legal work for me.”

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36 Comments

Anonymous

I am the guy

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Anonymous

Yes. Yes, you are.

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Anonymous

And I am a lad!

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Anonymous

Top lad of law

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Anonymous

aka the legal badass

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Anonymous

I am the girl. I am can offically say you are not the guy.

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Anonymous

I’m the other girl and I can confirm that you are not the first girl but he is in fact the guy.

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Anonymous

I am the amorphous, gender-fluid blob at the centre of all this and I am offended that you continue to use these outdated and totalitarian pronouns.

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Mr. Charles

How is this newsworthy?

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Anonymous

You can never silence me Cheekists

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Anonymous

I am the guy!!!!!!

(1)(0)

Anonymous

Me = the guy

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BPTC student

How is seeking relationship advice from an agony aunt column “seeking it from an unlikely source”? That’s the purpose of these columns.

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Anonymous

The guy? That’s me

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Anonymous

I am le guy.

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Anonymous

The real question: Which firm is that easy to get into that all three of them have a job there? 🤔

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Anonymous

If they are from the same uni and the firm tends to recruit from that uni it isn’t that abnormal

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Anonymous

It really is.

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Anonymous

It really isn’t.

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Anonymous

Assuming the problem is not made up…

Be the better person would be my advice – but after you’ve done that for a while , without success, keep conversation and contact with the ex girlfriend to a minimum. This will help avoid the consequences of pathological spite, if it is present.

If pathogical spite is present tip off your supervisor and ask them what to do. Don’t bottle it up or fear for your job. This will not be the first time its ever happened.

You are going to find out if your relationship has legs.

I guess the thread of the time wasting comments you got from the telegraph is to subtly establish whether the two split for logistical reasons and joining the same firm cancels those reasons out.

In the favour of all concerned, would you each have applied to this firm in year 2, before any of you were at a corner of the love triangle ?

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Anonymous

Unless this is a small firm she’s probably dramatically overestimating how much they will all see each other. If you’re at a big firm with 30+ trainees it is very easy not to see others in different departments for months at a time even if you want to. I can’t see any genuine issue unless they all stupidly apply to the same seats at the same time.

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Tyrone

I’m the MAN

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Anonymous

I iz that geezah

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The Ex

I’m the ex. I’m hotter than Amelia. I’m going to get him back. Mwah ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

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Anonymous

I am Spartacus

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Anonymous

Notwithstanding the idiocy of the Telegraph comments section, the fact that this person wrote to Graham Norton makes me despair as to her rationality….

I pray this is a made up story.

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Anonymous

I’m the recruiter who hired all three for the bantz

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Oh Sir Walter Really

I’m Brian and so’s my wife. And my ex-wife.

(0)(1)

Emma Bunton ft Tin Tin Out

What I am is what I am, you’re what you are, alright.

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Edie Brickell

What you are is a cover version….

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Anonymous

I’d happily take her place. Evidently, this is just too much for her.

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I am groot

I am groot

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Graham Norton

I am the Graham Norton

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Anonymous

*Person starts working with boyfriend and ex*

N E W S W O R T H Y

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Anonymous

That guy is a player

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Anonymous

‘The situation doesn’t really sound sustainable and I can imagine something or someone is going to blow fairly soon.’ Oo-er

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