Judge orders man to write 144 compliments about ex-girlfriend

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He violated a court order not to contact the woman

A judge has taken the somewhat unusual step of ordering a man to pay his ex-girlfriend 144 compliments after he bombarded her with “nasty” text messages and calls.

Rhonda Loo, a circuit judge in Hawaii, handed Daren Young the unconventional punishment after he breached a court order not to contact his unnamed former partner. According to The Maui News, the judge told him:

“For every nasty thing you said about her, you’re going to say nice thing. No repeating words.”

On 22 May, Young texted, called and attempted to call his ex-partner an eye-watering 144 times over a period of less than three hours.

The 30-year-old — who had already spent 157 days in jail awaiting his hearing — pleaded “no contest” to 16 counts of violating a protection order. The original order was issued back in February after the couple had split.

Judge Loo continued:

“It’s so childish to think a grown man can be so thumb-happy. I don’t know whether I should cut off your fingers or take away your phone to get you to stop texting. You probably shouldn’t get a phone, period. I hope she changed her number.”

Appearing remorseful for his actions, Young told the court he was “ready to move forward” with his life, and had no plans to contact his ex again. He was also ordered to pay a fine of $2,400 (£1,800) and perform 200 hours of unpaid work. Young has 144 days to write the 144 compliments.

It seems judges are getting more creative in handing out their punishments.

Over in the United Kingdom, Plymouth man John Liddicoat hit Legal Cheek headlines when he was banned from going within four metres of a bike rack. The judge said the offender: “has a tendency to take anything which is not bolted down.”

Before that, a man from Chester was forbidden from owning “any power tools, jewellery, electrical goods or games equipment without a valid receipt” for three years. Judges have also passed sentences banning defendants from contacting emergency services without a genuine reason, and from entering any Tesco, Marks & Spencer, Waitrose, Debenhams, Morrisons, John Lewis, Homebase or Sainsbury’s.

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Reminds me of receiving lines at school.

Not cocaine before you start, although it was a comprehensive…



had it been eton, harrow or charterhouse …


Frustrated Writer

“Just try anthing!”

Alex had lost his temper, and had begun screaming at Tom. Katie had stormed out of the office some time ago. “We’ve got no news. Nothing. Google some lawyers in Fiji, Japan, Hawaii. Anything. There must be some funny legal news.”

Tom sighed and stared at the screen. This was not what he had signed up for. He thought of all the things he could have done with his life, and the countless myriad decisions which had taken him to working in the smelly backstreets of Bow for Legal Cheek. He could have been anything he’d wanted to be.

“There’s a story about a judge ordering an unusual punishment in Hawaii? Some compliments?”

Alex punched the air.

“You’ve got it. You’ll go far in legal journalism, Tom. Well done. Get it taped and get it up there.”


Frustrated Writer

Not me. Good effort though (one point of order – LC are based in North London, not Bow).



North London? Their address is literally on the website.



That address says they’re in E8, which is Hackney (Dalston) not Bow.



Even if this wasn’t the real Frustrated Writer it made me laugh. Perhaps write again as “Not the real Frustrated Writer”.



from “loo” (j) no less!



Even if this wasn’t the real Frustrated Writer it made me laugh. Perhaps write again as “Not the real Frustrated Writer”.



Will the real Frustrated Writer please stand up…?

Please stand up…?

Please stand up…?



So the sentence for a crime of harassment is to order further harassment?




Punish him and she should block his number/change telephone number. He is going to keep doing it until he is prevented from doing so in some way. He is disordered.



You know Frustrated Writer has made it now as there has been 2 copycats of him recently.



And the imitation “Frustrated writer” writers are better than the Legal Cheek writers, who nobody would want to emulate



“Over in the United Kingdom”
We are in the United Kingdom, Tom. Poor Tom. Those pupillage and Training Contract application tests must have been really taxing for you.


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